Currently, my family is being swayed by the pace of my son, who is almost 50 days old. The postpartum helpers have really helped me. When my son suddenly cries out loud, I’m really at a loss as to what to do. In my case, my “enjoyable training” has only just begun, but I am reminded of many things about when I was little.
I can imagine that I must have caused a lot of trouble for my parents. I’m embarrassed to say this myself, but I’m a big crybaby, and I think I cried even harder than my son. What I vaguely remember is that I would often annoy my mother by crying so hard in a department store, and that I would cry just by going into the hospital.
It’s almost the anniversary of the founder’s death (December 11th), but I think what really bothered me was that I cried because my father wasn’t enough and my mother wasn’t there.
At the time, my father probably wondered what was wrong with me being such a crybaby, even though I was a man.
It is said that you can only appreciate your parents once you become a parent, but once you experience it yourself, other people’s affairs become your own, and your gratitude for others increases dramatically, and you begin to see the wonderful things in others. It often comes.
You can understand stories like this if you experience them yourself, but even if you don’t experience them, how much can you learn to think about things from someone else’s perspective? I believe this is the key to self-growth and the ability to build richer relationships with others.
Even if you don’t actually experience it, there are things you can do just by listening to stories and thinking about it, so I’d like to share what I try to do.
First, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and try to understand.
I try not only to listen to the other person’s words, but also to empathize with them by feeling their emotions and background, including their ki perspective.
I also think it’s important to think about things from the perspective of people who are in a different position than you, even in everyday life.
For example, imagine how someone feels about the people they see on their commute to work or the events reported on the news. I also do the same thing when talking about people who have already passed away, that is, talking about negative energy. In addition, we assume a specific person and think or make inferences based on that person’s thoughts, feelings, things they see, and actions.
For example, my mother-in-law left her distant hometown to live with her sisters. When you receive advice from a wife who is experiencing pain in her relationship with her mother-in-law, by thinking about it from that person’s perspective, you can gain deeper understanding and empathy, and make it easier for good energy to reach you. I feel like it is.